Anyone wanting to lose weight can’t imagine sabotaging their own success, and yet that is exactly what so many dieters do, time and time again. Most dieters understand if losing weight were only a matter of balancing calories in versus calories out, or cutting down on eating while exercising more, then everyone would simply achieve their natural weight and stay there forever. This is clearly not the case for many people who struggle with food, and weight issues for most of their lives. The simplification that people are overweight because they have no willpower, or are greedy ignores the subconscious reasons that compel many people to overeat.
All those past unsuccessful attempts at getting fitter and losing weight may well have failed simply because your subconscious mind didn't want you to lose weight and conspired against your best efforts to make sure you were ultimately unsuccessful.
If that sounds unlikely there is an easy way to find out if this is true for you...
Therapists Sally Baker, and Liz Hogon specialise in resolving issues around emotional eating so that people who have struggled with yo yo dieting for years can finally successfully lose weight. They are also the co-authors of 7 Simple Steps to Stop Emotional Eating (Hammersmith Press 2015). One of therapy tools featured in the book is called The Dream Come True (DCT) protocol. Revealing hidden conflicts can be approached in a variety of ways. However, Sally and Liz have found this protocol to be the most successful to discover unexplored conflict, or any deeply felt unease clients may have around successfully losing weight that can lead to self-sabotaging behaviour, and the inevitable yo-yo dieting. It’s a tool of discovery that helps reveal blocks and resistance to weight loss by highlighting any conflict areas around being potentially slim, and attractive.
Here is how to do this for yourself…
Compose a few simple statements written in the first person that represents your Dream Come True (DTC) about the weight, and/or size you want to be. You are to write your statement as if you have achieved your weight loss goal now, in the present tense.
Your Dream Come True (DTC) statement will read similar to this:
“I feel wonderful at my goal weight.”
“I feel great now I am a size 10.” (substitute your goal size here)
“I love weighing 140 pounds.” (substitute your weight goal here)
You can elaborate further with your statements so it is the most powerful intention you can set. Add in more emotions about how you’ll feel. Add in more benefits you will have from this achievement. The completed DCT protocol may read similar to this.
“I love weighing 120 pounds. I feel fabulous in my size 8 jeans. I can walk for hours and even run around after the kids! Life is good, and I feel so proud of myself for achieving my weight loss goal.”
|7 Steps to Stop Emotional Eating|
by Sally Baker & Liz Hogon
Continue to hone your DCT statement to make it as compelling as it can be. Next you need to score your belief in your statement. Zero represents ‘I don’t believe I can achieve this at all’, and a score of ten is, ‘I truly believe I can do this’. Your initial score may only be a number four, or a five however don’t be disheartened. This inconsistency between your intention and your belief system is what is preventing you from reaching your goal.
Make a note of any doubts or negative feelings your DCT statement brings up for you and work on these using EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), and PSTEC (Percussive Suggestion Technique) the therapy self-help processes Baker, and Hogon use with their clients. Apply these techniques until your DCT score is as close to a ten as you can get it and you truly believe you can achieve this for yourself. It is vital to clear any stumbling blocks to achieving your weight loss goal, or it is unlikely your sub-conscious mind will let you succeed.
Simply go to www.your7simplesteps.com/resources for full instructions on how to work with the EFT and PSTEC therapy tools for yourself and be sure to check out Sally Baker and Liz Hogon's book: 7Simple Steps to Stop Emotional Eating (published by Hammersmith Books), available to buy on Amazon.co.uk in both paperback and kindle editions.
BTBS will be reviewing this book in the coming weeks!